tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post4093646579769985520..comments2023-06-30T11:13:51.423-04:00Comments on ASL Fitness: Lesson Learned in FriendshipKerryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-52648823768307005362013-01-30T11:07:40.272-05:002013-01-30T11:07:40.272-05:00Wow, that's so hard. I had a similar experien...Wow, that's so hard. I had a similar experience in high school - my best friend of the past six years decided that I wasn't cool enough to hang out with her at school anymore. She was dating somebody on the football team and, well, I wasn't. After completely ridiculing me in her car in front of two of our other friends, I was "done." But you know, all these years later, it still hurts and I wonder what ever happened to her. <br />Great post. <br />TALUKristihttp://www.findingninee.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-26318388839508531092013-01-29T15:31:30.392-05:002013-01-29T15:31:30.392-05:00Wow! Not sure whether to think you're better ...Wow! Not sure whether to think you're better off for having gotten over her or whether it's a commentary on just how insecure she was and she was afraid of letting go of the others thinking you would always be there when they were done with her?? Either way, that's sad, and said that it has stayed with you. I had a similar but not quite so dramatic experience. The relationship had gone one about twice as long, and our families were very close as well. Even though we sort of parted ways, we connect every now and again, and always know that if it came down to it and either "needed" the other, we'd be there for each other. [#TALU]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-73760750862504487612013-01-29T11:53:12.454-05:002013-01-29T11:53:12.454-05:00Ouch, what a rotten thing she did. Actually, SEVe...Ouch, what a rotten thing she did. Actually, SEVeral rotten things. You handled it so well, though. You're a very healthy person, from the sound of it!<br /><br />Thanks for linking this up with the TALU! Anne Birdsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02834796541721743227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-38567642988665784212012-07-05T00:28:46.566-04:002012-07-05T00:28:46.566-04:00Thank you, MariaAna. Unfortunately, at the time, s...Thank you, MariaAna. Unfortunately, at the time, she was indeed very selfish, and that's where the incidents stemmed from. I agree, there are definitely still good people and good friends who treasure the bond of friendship. Thanks for reading.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-77809053786970974682012-07-04T20:07:10.207-04:002012-07-04T20:07:10.207-04:00Hi there, read your post from top to bottom.. yeah...Hi there, read your post from top to bottom.. yeah that is really really sad on your part, coz you trusted her and 4 years of wonderful friendship is no joke.. and mean and bad on her side because meaning she just doesn't care much. she was selfish. Am sorry that I am being blunt but based on it, she was indeed selfish. (in a bad way) <br /><br />and as for you, it's good that after all, you still learnt to forgive. and I believe there are always good friends out there who will forever stay and not hurt you.. <br /><br />Cheers because the sunshine is all yours ;-)MariaAnahttp://www.mydailypages.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-89669875457549899342012-06-18T20:28:58.317-04:002012-06-18T20:28:58.317-04:00This is so sad! I hate it when friendships end lik...This is so sad! I hate it when friendships end like that. What a hurtful way to say goodbye. :(KatBouskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11556451375792958743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-11892154043214631862012-06-18T12:24:22.910-04:002012-06-18T12:24:22.910-04:00Thank you. I think friendship is harder to lose th...Thank you. I think friendship is harder to lose than a relationship because it's a different connection. You know there is a chance that a relationship won't work out, but you never feel like a friendship will end. You're supposed to be there for each other forever, and when trust is lost, it's never forgotten. Thanks for reading.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-87352193197548060732012-06-18T12:19:48.260-04:002012-06-18T12:19:48.260-04:00Kids can be so mean, girls especially. I'm sor...Kids can be so mean, girls especially. I'm sorry you had to go through that. But, she may have had her own demons to deal with, which perpetuated her cruelty. And you're right, she may be a completely different person now, and maybe she realized what she did and has changed. It is hard to forgive, but it's always better for yourself.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-1921032697945013872012-06-18T12:04:15.709-04:002012-06-18T12:04:15.709-04:00I don't know. I don't think it was intenti...I don't know. I don't think it was intentionally meant to make me think she cared when she didn't. I'm sure she was just too busy thinking about herself at the time, which isn't much better, but I don't think it was meant to be that malicious. But yes, sometimes girls are the worst. Thanks for reading.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-37759250180298213482012-06-18T10:27:13.184-04:002012-06-18T10:27:13.184-04:00You are absolutely right about forgiveness. It wa...You are absolutely right about forgiveness. It was a good lesson to learn!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13311088408907148236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-11398632584109488332012-06-16T12:01:40.395-04:002012-06-16T12:01:40.395-04:00Wow, great post. You're definitely right, losi...Wow, great post. You're definitely right, losing a best friend is far harder than losing a boyfriend/girlfriend. But learning to forgive is a great lesson to learn and I guess you can at least be thankful that she taught you that.<br /><br />It was definitely her loss. <br /><br />Thanks for visiting!!!Cee Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08089638699046511577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-33597827262542974752012-06-15T17:29:19.280-04:002012-06-15T17:29:19.280-04:00I really appreciate how honest your post was. Like...I really appreciate how honest your post was. Like everyone is saying, forgiveness is so, so hard. <br /><br />I was bullied terribly by this girl in the 6th grade. That was like 20 years ago. And still to this day when I hear her name I think about the bullying. Intellectually I know that it's been 20 years. She must be a totally different person by now. I know I am. But emotionally I'm still like, "She's the kind of person who traps geeky kids in the boys bathroom!" I know that's a completely unhelpful place to go so I actively remind myself that I've forgiven her, it was a long time ago, and I need to let it go. But it's hard.<br /><br />I think it's even harder if it's a friend who hurts you. I'm so sorry she treated you badly and I'm glad you've forgiven her.Larkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01782254001145914109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-10486837950352689442012-06-15T12:36:36.631-04:002012-06-15T12:36:36.631-04:00Why would she do that to you? It's totally the...Why would she do that to you? It's totally the worst thing in the world when somebody tries to make you think they care about you when they don't. It's like, what's the point? Why not be honest? Ugh... Girls are so fucking mean...<br /><br />stopping in from mama kat's.Classic NYerhttp://www.classicnycstory.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-25839973531733019632012-06-14T19:38:44.084-04:002012-06-14T19:38:44.084-04:00I think you are right about the immaturity. And ye...I think you are right about the immaturity. And yes, once trust is broken, it is nearly impossible to build up again. It needs to be earned, not just given. I hope she learned, too, and she didn't do this to anyone else.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-19949234696738618072012-06-14T16:58:22.063-04:002012-06-14T16:58:22.063-04:00That did sound very painful -- but also sounded li...That did sound very painful -- but also sounded like a result of immaturity. Trust is a hard thing to ever gain back. Hopefully she learned that true friendship should never be taken for granted.Jamie Mileshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03464973297373372882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-62155937102523777422012-06-14T15:10:51.914-04:002012-06-14T15:10:51.914-04:00Good for you that you were able to forgive. You ar...Good for you that you were able to forgive. You are absolutely right: forgiving let's you heal and move on. It's hard to do, do worth it.Bridget @ Le. Rheimshttp://lerheims.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-219108902853723162012-06-14T13:18:09.879-04:002012-06-14T13:18:09.879-04:00Thank you. It definitely is difficult, but I agree...Thank you. It definitely is difficult, but I agree, also very necessary.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-79214709603223609332012-06-14T13:17:06.803-04:002012-06-14T13:17:06.803-04:00Robyn, that is so sad. How cruel people can be. I ...Robyn, that is so sad. How cruel people can be. I hear that Angela cleaned up her life, too, and even saw her once not too long ago and she seemed to be doing much better.<br />It's never too late to forgive.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-13268294021579775322012-06-14T13:14:24.861-04:002012-06-14T13:14:24.861-04:00I'm glad you got something out of it. Thanks f...I'm glad you got something out of it. Thanks for reading.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-64608916711350403772012-06-14T13:04:54.751-04:002012-06-14T13:04:54.751-04:00It's very hard to forgive people when they hur...It's very hard to forgive people when they hurt you. It's also very necessary if we are to move on. Great post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-50236702848083960042012-06-14T12:45:30.415-04:002012-06-14T12:45:30.415-04:00I agree - often forgiveness is as much (if not mor...I agree - often forgiveness is as much (if not more) for the person doing the forgiving. You have to let go, because at a certain point the grudge is only hurting you.<br /><br />I had a very similar friendship break-up, but her "apology" turned out to be a trick to get me to get off the bus at a different stop to be pushed around by her and her new "tough" group of friends. We never spoke again. I found out while I was away at college that she'd cleaned up her life, but suffered a stroke due to after-effects of drug use - she was driving at the time, crashed her car and didn't survive. You were smart to forgive while you could.RobynHTVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08491681502102208047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-42412391360606151072012-06-14T12:20:10.742-04:002012-06-14T12:20:10.742-04:00Awww....that just broke my heart.Awww....that just broke my heart.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09423358205279071977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-15958839219234698652012-06-14T10:20:06.142-04:002012-06-14T10:20:06.142-04:00Wow. Friendships are so hard and I can't decid...Wow. Friendships are so hard and I can't decide if friendships as a child were harder, or now as an adult. They are all rough sometimes. Your last paragraph was powerful. So true. I really needed to read that, because I have a friendship that I am letting go of, but wasn't sure what the next step was. thanks.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493576726012326958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-29817642907729206052012-06-14T10:08:45.244-04:002012-06-14T10:08:45.244-04:00It is very difficult to achieve. Nothing can reall...It is very difficult to achieve. Nothing can really help except time. We cannot forgive until we are really ready. Don't force it... it will come. I hope you find your peace. Thanks for reading.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5967522640957872616.post-89593829100842020262012-06-14T10:05:56.858-04:002012-06-14T10:05:56.858-04:00I find it very hard to trust new people now. Exact...I find it very hard to trust new people now. Exactly like I told Angela, what she did changed what we were forever. Even if we eventually became friends again, it would never be like we were before, and I would always be wondering when the next time was going to be when she was going to lie or hurt me again. But I chose to forgive for myself, so I could let go of the anger in my heart and move on with a happier life.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000402109977122989noreply@blogger.com